You know some of the best times with family is talking about those “big” stories from your past? My brother-in-law says my family has four major stories that we talk about on repeat over and over again like a broken record. It’s funny though, to me they never get old. I always hate the moment after, when I realize those stomach cramping from laughing so hard moments are ten or fifteen years ago. As a kid, you can’t wait to grow up. As an adult, you wish you were a kid again.
Change is a good thing, usually. We, as humans, are just resistant to it. But we must do it to survive. We are like snakes. They have to shed their skin two to four times every year. If they don’t, they won’t survive. They won’t grow. We are the same. Change is hard, but it is a necessary evil. I’m not the same person I was when I was ten (thank God!) thanks to change. I don’t think change is the difficult part– it’s the transition.
See, change is moving from one scenario to the next. Sometimes we do that without thinking. The thinking through things and actually adapting to the change– that’s the transitioning. Transition doesn’t always happen so smoothly. Adapting to the change is a complex thing. I tend to resort to denial. You know, because that’s the logical thing to do. “Oh, no, that’s not real” in my brain equates me thinking it will go away. Trust me, works like a charm!
Nope. Not at all.
There’s this nice thing though, called the Bible. It seems to have the answer for these transitional problems. I like a particular passage that applies to these transitions, Ecclesiastes 3.
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.”
There it is. Proof. There are times for each of these things– times for transition. We not only should learn about transition, but we need these transitions. And– wait for it– it’s expected. No, no one likes moving away from home or losing a loved one (not that those are small or easy things). But we are to continually learn, process, and adapt. We must continually shed our old skin to grow.
I have made multiple changes in my life (most of them within the past 6 months); some changes have been an easy transition, and others I have gone kicking and screaming. I hope to share this blog to show transitioning is not easy, but possible. Change is inevitable. Transitioning truly is a necessary evil, but an evil we can take on together.